We don’t talk too much about meditation and sex in the same sentence of the same conversation because I think that secretly we think well I shouldn’t be thinking about sex if I’m meditating well because first off we think we shouldn’t be having thoughts at all when we’re meditating.
The number one misconception about meditation is that we think that we should be able to give our minds a command to stop, which is totally impossible, the mind thinks involuntarily, just like the heart beats involuntarily ,and so judging ourselves, at how good we are meditating based on how good we are at stopping our minds from thinking, is always going to make us feel like we’re failing.
Then we’re going to stop, so if we think secretly we’re not supposed to be thinking, then certainly we shouldn’t be thinking about sex right, and if we’re in our meditation regime about sex ,or even getting aroused like ,oh I’m going to get in trouble, because we sort of have defined this meditation practice that it is a holy practice.
In India there are two branches of meditation there’s a style meditation ,that was made for monks, and there was a style of meditation, that was made for people like us, people with busy minds ,and busy lives.
Why Meditation Can Help You Last Longer In Bed?
So I am going to talk about the science behind ,why meditation can help you last longer in bed.
Relationships are an outlet for our fulfillment ,they are not a place that we can go to fill ourselves up, and secretly we know this ,but Hollywood is sort of screwed us on this one a little bit, with three little words “you complete me.”
If you don’t have the ability to experience bliss and fulfillment inside of you , it’s not going to happen on the other side of some magical person, it is not going to happen on the other side of the hottest lady in the room, it doesn’t matter how amazing that lady is.
The Role Of Meditation
What meditation does, is that it gives you access to this limitless source of bliss and fulfillment, and adaptation energy, and if you have the means by which to fill yourself up 100%.
If fulfillment is happening right here inside of you, then your relationships become an outlet for that fulfillment, and that is a beautiful way to go through your relationships, then it starts this sort of upward spiral towards a healthy relationship with your partner.
What Happens When You Get Stressed
This stress thing is robbing you from your full performance capabilities, not only in work, but also in the bedroom. Guess what happens when you get stressed, when you get stressed your body starts preparing for a predatory attack ,so your body launches into this series of chemical reactions, your digestion shuts down, your skin gets acidic, your blood thickens ,and coagulates, your vision goes like this your bladder, and bowels evacuate, and your immune system goes to the back burner, now this series of chemical reactions is great for you, if your demands are predatory attacks ,but if you’re about to get it on with your girl ,you do not want to be having a nervous tensed pose.
What Happens When You Meditate
When we meditate is we start to get rid of this stress in our nervous system, which allows us to be fully present.
When we go into any encounter but certainly sex, because sex more than anything requires a present moment awareness, so what’s the number one excuse, the sort of stereotypical excuse that we give when we don’t want to have sex, tired ,yeah and like I can’t tonight honey, I have a headache, we got tired and a headache, so if meditation is giving you rest five times deeper than sleep then when you come out of that meditation, you’re going to be more awake ,you’re going to have more energy to get it on, you’re going to be able to afford a little less sleep, because you’ve meditated that day, so you’re ready to rock and roll in pussy.